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Deny Access to Unworthy Men

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 12:47:27 GMT

Deny Access to Unworthy Men

Cocktail Conversation: Creamsicle Mimosas

I know the dating scene can be rough, and you may even realize that most men that you are coming across do not have the qualities that you would like them to have in a future partner. I hear all the dating nightmares from dating psychopaths who sadistically want to torture women to the narcissistic leeches who want to control their objects and want to be worshipped by them as well. Where are the suitable men with emotional intelligence, great character, real confidence, mature, dependable, good morals, integrity, financial stability, enjoyable conversation, intelligence, and knows how to value and respect a lady? Ladies they are out there. If you want to draw them near you must go through the frogs and throw them back in the pond along the way. As soon as you find out a male is not suitable to your liking get him out of your energy field.

You do not need to keep the devil’s rejects around as friends either. Most of them will try to stick around as energy vampires sucking on your life force. Do you know how powerful your lifeforce is? Some men will attach to your energy field and start to prosper just because they are close to you. Cut all ties off and release all males that cannot add value to your very existence. Once they are gone all your abundance will flow so effortlessly. Let them pull from their own might. What they put out must come back. Do not be their shields of protection any longer. Your beautiful life force keeps these unworthy men afloat, once you move out the way the Universe can send them what they put out. Make sure you do not let them spend the block once you release them. So many narcissistic parasites try this approach. They are just looking for supply to suck your power source. Do not be a part of the haram. Let them fall on their faces!

You want your space empty, pleasant, and flowing with good energy to attract your Emperor. Say it with me “No damaged, want to be chased, terrible hygiene, looking for a woman to live off of, broke-busted-disgusted, temper tantrum mommas’ boys, non-committal secretly attracted to other men, void of emotional intelligence, empathy and compassion vacant, uncapable of intimacy, and a shallow hogwash of a human meat suit male, let them be.” You want a man you can respect who respects himself too. It is wonderful when you have a man you can be proud of. You just wont find it in unworthy men, they are not equipped to take on women who are as great as you. Life is too short to be stuck and playing games with a low IQ male who cannot recognize a gift like you. Deny Access!

Do you know what most of these unworthy males’ lives will be like and say ten to fifteen years from now? Let me paint a picture. Especially for the ones who have been putting bad energy out: Gout, high blood pressure, potbellies, and erectile dysfunction. Broke- living in their mother’s basement on an air mattress. Still broke- mediocre job with no retirement, investments, or savings because all he did was trick his moneys off on prostitutes. Super broke- taken care of the many children he had with multiple mothers in which he never committed to anyone. Then when he reaches retirement age and gets social security, he will be angry and broke tricking his social security check off on junkies and alcoholics that match his energy. I am sure it will be one of these reasons or close in nature. The nursing homes will be filled with unworthy men in old age. You my dear, make good decisions for your life. Stay away from time wasters, they will slow you down, You are worthy and deserve the best that life has to offer. Good souls always prevail, remember that.

Breaking Trauma Bonds with Toxic Men

Sat, 17 Oct 2020 23:48:57 GMT

Cocktail Conversation: Watermelon-tini

“Trauma bonding” refers to being emotionally attached to an abuser. Have you ever experienced or know someone who is trauma bonded? It is horrifying and can have a woman in a state of feeling worthless and on an emotional rollercoaster. The tyrant toxic man uses manipulation and cycles of abuse, then presents a form of reward to keep hold of his victim. For instance, he may devalue his target with his words and then act sweet and want to take her to dinner.

The act of trauma bonding is sadistic in nature. It forms an unhealthy attachment. When a victim has an inkling of thought of wanting to escape the abuser she is pulled back with a nice gesture. This may make a woman feel sorry for wanting to leave the relationship. In the back of their minds’ that little goodness that is given makes them think that the attacker is just going through something or has a good heart and can change. Also, it may keep the woman connected to how the person was in the beginning of the relationship and not escaping because they hope or are waiting for prince charming to miraculously resurface.

The truth is those toxic men do not change. They are keeping their victims loyal to an idea that is an illusion. They do just enough to keep one hopeful and then shatter hearts’ over and over. The cycle becomes so habitual that a woman may find herself constantly looking for ways to please and keep the creature happy. A lot of these men are narcissistic in nature. Each time it strikes he takes a piece of her soul and self-worth.

When a person experiences trauma the primal reaction is to go into survival mode. The fight, flight, or freeze response is triggered. In this case the victim keeps freezing. He knows it too, even if he cannot articulate it. He knows he has her in a place where she will not go astray, and he will continue to inflict pain. He will continue to reflect how he feels on the inside onto the one he is supposed to cherish. It becomes an unhealthy soul tie.

One must detach from their predator on all levels. No communication on any level. If not, she will lose herself. No woman should ever go against her own intuition. It is not normal or love to keep accepting someone’s’ toxic behavior. Negative forms of bonding does not make you loyal to the situation it makes you a punching bag for a fuck boy to take his issues out on you instead of doing the inner work to elevate himself.

This is my story

Sat, 26 Sep 2020 23:46:29 GMT

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Cocktail queen is a lady with an opinion who is passionate about changing the lives of women for the better. She is a content creator, domestic abuse advocate, femininity influencer, and YouTube voice who uses her platform for women who want to embrace their divine feminine. Cocktail queen is dynamic, fun, and inquisitive! Her objective is to stir the minds of women to see from different perspectives, with hopes of empowering ladies to embrace their greatness. She may ruffle some feathers here and there with her views, but she means well. She is a writer by heart, and she loves to do so with a cocktail by her side.

Hypergamy

Sat, 05 Sep 2020 23:53:34 GMT

Cocktail Conversation: Lavender Mimosa

Have you ever sat and thought about the selection of men we have to choose from in the free world? I bet many can agree “What a waste.” It’s like going through the trash and picking the least tainted. Should I take the snot rag or the shitted handkerchief? Hell no! How about leaving it all there and having what you deserve, the best. The best definitely won’t be inside or anywhere in the vicinity of garbage.

To select the best mate for marrying requires the practice of hypergamy. The goal is to “marry up” by pursuing and attracting males of a higher class, income or social status. We have to take accountability ladies and be honest with ourselves by knowing what we really want. I agree and respect the feminist thought to change the social perspective of injustice and oppression against women. On the other hand, too, much equality is disrupting the family structure. Especially in many minority cultures.

Many ladies have become so independent that they don’t need a man. Most have titles, degrees, and salaries that allow them to take care of themselves. But what happens when good old father time comes a knocking at your door. The day when you get the inkling to want a high quality conscious valued man; whom you can raise a family with. One who takes care of everything that’s you and allows you to be that feminine adored vessel that you naturally are.

Is it so wrong to have a life of ease? One day you may not want to chase a bag any longer. You could wake up and not want to punch a clock. You may want to just be soft, cared for, and loved. A hypergamous mindset will not only give you these things but a man who is secure in his role to give to you freely with pride. Because after all you are a precious gem.

"Don't date down that's like casting your pearls to swine."

Femininity At Its Finest

Sat, 05 Sep 2020 23:51:48 GMT

Cocktail Conversation: French Pear Martini

I absolutely love being feminine! Femininity is a superpower for women. Can you imagine the world being void of softness and creativity that feminine energy brings? It would be absolute chaos. When a woman is operating in her femininity, she has the wisdom of the universe.

Some say that many women lack femininity and are too aggressive. In some cases, this may be true. Could it be the fact that mothers’ push their daughters to be independent while coddling their sons’? As a result, the girls take on more masculine energy. Many mothers did not teach their daughters how to be feminine because they were never taught themselves.

One thing is for sure most women grasp the nurturing aspect of femininity when it comes to their children. We do have a few bad apples though. Every now and then you will hear of a mom putting her children to death, but for the most part such acts are rare. Many women are good care takers.

Femininity is about being a lady. This can encompass the way we walk and talk. Another aspect is demonstrating compassion and care to others. This does not mean we have to be doormats and let people walk on us. One can still be assertive when needed and check a fool when they get out of line.

Feminine women have an innate way of understanding and being vulnerable when necessary. No other species has the depth of thought than a woman. This is probably why we can become emotional at times. One thing is for sure being feminine is not a weakness. A woman standing in her power is at her finest!